Where the Grass is Greener...

I was over at LifeChurch.Tv two mornings ago listening in on the series "5 Ways to Wreck Your Life". Adultery was the focus of the topic under discussion (I mean it's in the Ten Commandments as a big "DO NOT"--so you know it's pretty serious). This is pretty pertinent IMHO especially since studies show that 65% of husbands and (interestingly enough) 55% of wives cheat. This is not how God intended us to live. The Word itself considers marriage to be both becoming "one flesh". How can a husband and wife who should live as one be so divided? As an old Jamaican proverb says, that would be "Two patty inna one different bag". In short, living that way makes no sense.

"When the grass starts to look greener..."

Craig (the pastor) made some pretty valid points all in all, but the one that stuck with me the most was essentially that of neglecting one's marriage. "When the grass starts to look greener on the other side...it's time to start watering your own yard!" When what's outside starts looking might fine, it's definitely time to start paying attention to what's yours. Being covetous will not solve the issue. Only a recommitment and recognition of the true worth of what you have and what the Lord saw fit to grace you with will make the difference. As Solomon said "Rejoice in the wife of your youth!" How many husbands delight in their wives and vice versa? Sure there will be the points of annoyance, but one must do well to remember that people in closed spaces will ALWAYS rub each other the wrong way at least some of the time. What's important is that you love one another enough to forgive and heal (I don't like saying "forget" because that's idealistic) when conflict presents itself.

Be joyful always. The vows you took to each other under God are real. The covenant is yours to keep--work at it, pray about it, do all that you can so that you may not be "disqualified" (to paraphrase Paul). You'll be surprised how the small things...an opening of the door, a love note, an embrace, just..a little more time alone...can help.

Blessings till next time.

Josh